Enriching our Worship: Creating Easy Worthless Faith?

I was in Palm Springs this weekend, attending the Church I usually do when I'm there. They used the Enriching Our Worship eucharistic prayer (Normally they're Rite II, Prayer A - Right up my alley). During the eucharistic prayer there were some very disturbing replacements of words. As I also heard in the readings of the New Testament, there was lots of what I call "interpretive" changes. I've probably hashed over this before, but I wonder if folks are aware of the true consequence of what they're doing. A lot of folks are now trying to teach a Christianity that is dried up, worthless, and extremely easy. Reaks of the infomercial phrases - free trial, nothing to lose, no risk to you, no contracts, no commitments.
But then again, that is the general flavor of society today. I think that a lot of people aren't really into intentional community building anymore. N.T. Wright in his book The Last Word remarked that there is a growing new gnosticism in our churches that tells people that self-discovery and self-actualization is the actual important achievement. Simply put it's unscriptural, un-Christian, and un- a lot of things. But there's also something more disturbing afoot here. The modifications in the Enriching Our Worship are disturbing to say the least.
In Enriching our Worship, Jesus broke bread and gave it to his friends ... whereas in the Books of Common Prayer and in virtually (99.9%) of all Christian liturgies, the word disciples is used. Using English semantics, we see a vast chasm of difference between these two words and their meanings. Greek similarly also shows a big difference. Disciple and friend (in Greek: mathetai and adelphoi) are not synonymous, even moderately so. Understandably, this is some effort to be inclusive, or to be welcoming, but wait a minute, what is our theology of the Holy Eucharist? Regardless if you're a memorialist, or a die-hard transsubstantiationalist, or anywhere in between this is a big deal. Homosexuality is not a creedal or dogmatic debate, ordination of women is not a dogmatic or creedal debate, but this, I would argue is. Holy Eucharist, I think, represents a lot more than just a symbolic meal. For if it was, I don't think that the tradition would die out and be replaced by wafers and wine. As an example, the Sikhs have a communal meal called Langar which they established when the religion was established over 500 years ago. It has not been reduced to a token sharing of food, it is still sharing food (a full meal). This is why the whole friends versus disciples debate is one that I take very seriously and one where I think we ought to opt for the latter.
At the risk of sounding exclusive, I do believe that this is where we must draw the line between Christians and non-Christians. Even a super-inclusive, gay-friendly Church like the one I go to in Palm Springs prints prominently on its bulletin that: all baptized Christians are welcome to come forward to receive communion - if you are not baptized, still come forward for a blessing. My non-Christian friends never take communion if they come to Church with me. I asked them specifically if they felt excluded. They said that they were excluded, but they said that it's something that only Christians would understand and something that Christians take very seriously. They didn't want to disresepect what for us is a very sacred moment.
It's a very sinister thing to make a small change from disciples (students, who may be friends of Jesus, but nonetheless committed to Him), to friends (people you know, but not necessarily those who you have promised your life to). If all we needed to be Christian was to be friends with Jesus, we would lose the uniqueness and power of our faith. It becomes worthless. Jesus becomes nothing more than an ethical teacher. He then will have been stripped of his authority. Christianity is not humanistic, neither is it all-affirming. It is all-inclusive: everyone has sinned and is in need of God's redemption. It's that simple. Everyone is welcome to God's redemption. Being a Christian comes with consequences and will force you to make decisions that you may not want to make. Everything is not alright for Christians. The Confession of Sin at the Eucharist is not your license to sin freely. Lest we all forget, Jesus not only forgave the harlot of her sin, but he also admonished her to go and sin no more. That's when Christianity gets hard - the go and sin no more part. The part where we have to continually refine ourselves to conform to the will of God.